8 signs that your partner is totally committed to you and sees your relationship as long-term

Eliza Hartley by Eliza Hartley | September 18, 2024, 7:28 pm

There’s a world of difference between someone just passing time with you and someone who’s really committed to you.

The difference lies in their actions and words. A committed partner doesn’t just say they’re in it for the long haul, they show it in the little and big ways they treat you.

Being in a committed relationship means your partner sees you as part of their future plans. And trust me, there are telltale signs that can clue you into their level of commitment.

Here are some signs that show your partner is totally into you and sees your love as a long-term thing.

1) They make future plans with you

In the world of relationships, actions speak louder than words.

A partner who’s truly committed to you and sees your relationship as long-term doesn’t just live in the present. They’re always thinking about the future, and more importantly, they’re making plans that include you in it.

Think about it. Whether it’s planning for a vacation next summer, discussing where to spend the holidays, or even talking about settling down together, these conversations are a clear indication that they see you in their future.

But it’s not just about the big plans. It’s also about the small everyday things. Maybe they’ve started buying your favorite snacks for their pantry or they’ve made space for your stuff in their closet.

When your partner constantly includes you in their future plans, big or small, it’s a sign that they are totally committed to you and see your relationship as long-term.

Just remember, it’s not just about the talk. Look for actions that back up their words. That’s the real proof of their commitment.

2) They make sacrifices for your happiness

A crucial part of any relationship is the willingness to make sacrifices. It’s about understanding each other’s needs and sometimes, putting your partner’s needs above your own.

I remember a time when my partner demonstrated this in a way that left me deeply touched. I had been working late nights on a project, and I was completely drained. One evening, I came home to find that my partner had prepared my favorite meal, cleaned up the house and even set up a cozy movie night for us.

Now, he’s not much of a cook and he had a pretty hectic day himself. Yet, he went out of his way to do something special for me because he knew I needed it. It was a small act, but it spoke volumes about his commitment to our relationship.

Real commitment means that your partner is willing to step out of their comfort zone to ensure your happiness. It’s about making sacrifices, big or small, because they value your relationship and want it to last.

3) They introduce you to their inner circle

Introductions to friends and family are a big deal in any relationship. It’s often a clear sign that your partner sees you as a significant part of their life.

In a survey by eHarmony, it was found that 63% of men and 83% of women consider introducing their partner to their friends and family as a significant step towards commitment.

If your partner is eager to introduce you to their closest friends and family, it’s usually an indication that they’re serious about you. They want you to be a part of their world, and they’re not afraid to let the important people in their life know about you.

So next time your partner invites you to a family gathering or a night out with friends, know that it’s not just about socializing. It’s also about them showing their commitment to you.

4) They communicate openly with you

Open and honest communication is the foundation of any strong and lasting relationship.

When your partner is totally committed to you, they won’t shy away from having deep, meaningful conversations. They’ll share their thoughts, fears, dreams, and even their insecurities with you.

They won’t hide things from you or keep secrets. Instead, they’ll trust you enough to be vulnerable. They’ll listen to your thoughts and opinions, respect them, and take them into consideration when making decisions.

This open line of communication is not just about sharing; it’s also about resolving conflicts in a healthy way. If they’re willing to discuss issues openly, without resorting to blame or avoidance, it’s a strong sign that they’re in it for the long haul.

5) They support you through thick and thin

Life isn’t always a bed of roses. There are times when we face challenges, and it’s during these moments that a committed partner truly shines.

A partner who is totally committed to you is your biggest cheerleader. They stand by you during your triumphs, but more importantly, they’re there for you during your trials.

They don’t abandon ship at the first sign of trouble. Instead, they stick around, holding your hand, offering words of encouragement and doing whatever they can to help you navigate through the storm.

Their unwavering support isn’t just about being physically present; it’s about being emotionally available too. It’s about being a shoulder to lean on when things get tough, and a source of strength when you feel weak.

This kind of deep, heartfelt support is a surefire sign that your partner is totally committed to you and sees your relationship as long-term.

6) They remember the little things

It’s often said that love is in the details, and I’ve found this to be incredibly true.

I recall a time when I was having a tough week at work. One day, I casually mentioned to my partner that I was craving a particular dessert from a bakery across town but had no time to get it.

To my surprise, he showed up at my workplace the next day with the dessert in hand. It was a small gesture, but it meant the world to me. It showed me that he listened to my offhand comment and went out of his way to make my day a bit brighter.

When your partner remembers the little things you mention – your favorite song, a book you want to read, an anecdote you shared about your childhood – it shows they genuinely care about you and are invested in the relationship. These small acts of love can be a powerful sign of their commitment.

7) They’re not afraid to show their love in public

While public displays of affection aren’t for everyone, a partner who’s not afraid to show their love for you in public is often a sign of commitment.

They don’t hesitate to hold your hand when you’re walking down the street, give you a hug when you’re feeling down, or give you a quick peck on the cheek just because. They’re proud to be with you and they want the world to know.

These gestures of affection don’t need to be grand or overly dramatic. Even the simplest acts, like a warm smile across the room or a gentle touch on your arm, can communicate their love for you.

If your partner is comfortable expressing their love in front of others, it’s a pretty good sign they see your relationship as long-term.

8) They prioritize your relationship

At the end of the day, a partner who is totally committed to you will prioritize your relationship above all else.

They’ll make time for you, even when they’re busy. They’ll compromise to make sure both your needs are met. They’ll work through problems instead of running away from them.

A relationship isn’t just about the good times. It’s about standing together, as a team, through all the ups and downs. If your partner is willing to put in the effort to keep your relationship strong and healthy, it’s the most evident sign that they see your relationship as long-term.

Final thoughts: It’s all about actions

The complexities of human relationships often boil down to a simple truth – actions speak louder than words.

When it comes to understanding if your partner is totally committed to you and sees your relationship as long-term, their actions are the most telling signs.

Whether it’s making future plans with you, making sacrifices for your happiness, or remembering the little things that matter to you, these actions show their genuine commitment.

As psychologist and author Dr. John Gottman notes, “In a good relationship, people get angry, but in a very different way. The Marriage Masters see a problem a bit like a soccer ball. They kick it around. It’s ‘our’ problem.”

So reflect on your partner’s actions. Do they show that they’re in this with you, for the long haul? Do they see the problems you face as “our” problems? Are they there for you not just in moments of joy, but also in moments of trouble?

These reflections can provide valuable insights into the level of commitment your partner has towards your relationship.