Finding “the one” can feel like an elusive quest, but according to psychology, there are certain feelings that can give you a hint that you’re onto something special.

Love, as we all know, is a complex emotion that can be hard to pin down. But when you’re in a relationship with “the one”, there are certain things you’ll feel that are unique to this bond.

As Tina Fey, founder of the Love Connection blog and a relationship expert, I’ve spent years helping people navigate the labyrinth of love. And now, I’m here to help you recognize those telltale signs that say you’ve found your perfect match.

In this article, we’ll explore 10 things you’ll feel when you’re in a relationship with “the one”, as revealed by psychology. 

Let’s get started. 

1) Butterflies in your stomach

We’ve all felt that fluttering sensation in the pit of our stomach when we’re around someone we’re attracted to. But did you know that feeling is backed by psychology?

When you’re in a relationship with “the one”, those butterflies don’t just flutter and fade away. Instead, they evolve into a warm, comforting sensation that lingers, even when the initial excitement of a new relationship cools down.

This is because our brains release a mix of chemicals, including adrenaline, dopamine, and serotonin when we’re in love. These powerful hormones create feelings of happiness, pleasure, and attachment.

What’s more fascinating is that this isn’t just a fleeting emotion. If you’re with “the one”, this feeling becomes a consistent part of your life, making your relationship feel exciting and fulfilling.

When you feel those butterflies in your stomach, pay attention. It could be your brain telling you that you’ve found your perfect match. But remember, it’s not just about the butterflies, it’s about how they evolve and persist over time.

2) You’re comfortable in your own skin

When you’re in a relationship with “the one”, there’s no need for pretense. You can be yourself, warts and all, and they still love you. It’s a feeling of acceptance and security that is incredibly powerful.

As someone who has navigated the world of relationships for years, I can tell you that being able to be yourself is one of the most liberating feelings in a partnership.

This reminds me of a wise quote by Oscar Wilde, “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” When you’re with “the one”, you feel this freedom to be uniquely you.

You don’t have to hide your quirks or insecurities. Instead, they are embraced as part of who you are. This acceptance not only strengthens your relationship but also boosts your self-confidence.

Remember, “the one” for you will love all of you, even the parts of yourself you may struggle to accept.

3) Shared life goals

When you’re with “the one”, your dreams and aspirations align. You’re not just two individuals sharing a space; you’re partners working towards common goals.

In my years of helping couples mend their relationships, I’ve learned that shared life goals are one of the strongest indicators of a lasting relationship. When your vision of the future matches with your partner’s, it creates a strong bond that stands the test of time.

I explore this concept in-depth in my book, How to Get Your Ex Back: A Step by Step Guide to Winning Them Back (For Good). This book is not just about winning back an ex-lover, but it’s also about understanding the fundamental elements of a successful relationship, including shared life goals.

If you and your partner are working towards the same future, you might just be with “the one”. This unity in vision strengthens your bond and makes your relationship resilient against life’s challenges.

4) Comfortable silence

It might seem counterintuitive, but being in a relationship with “the one” isn’t about constant chatter or filling every moment with conversation. Instead, it’s about the ability to enjoy comfortable silence together.

We often feel the need to fill silence with words, fearing that quiet moments might be mistaken for awkwardness or boredom. But when you’re with “the one”, silence isn’t awkward; it’s peaceful.

These moments of shared silence are moments of mutual understanding. You don’t always need words to express your feelings or thoughts. Sometimes, a shared glance, a gentle touch, or a comfortable silence can say more than a thousand words.

If you find peace in the quiet moments you share with your partner, it could be a sign that you’re in a relationship with “the one”. It’s not about constant conversation, but about finding comfort in each other’s presence, even in silence.

5) Growth and acceptance

One of the most surprising aspects I’ve discovered in my own journey of love is the growth that comes with being with “the one”. It’s not just about finding someone who accepts you as you are, but also someone who challenges you to be the best version of yourself.

When you’re in a relationship with “the one”, they will inspire and encourage you to grow, personally and professionally. They’ll celebrate your achievements, support your ambitions, and help you navigate through challenges.

But more importantly, they’ll love you through your journey, accepting your flaws and appreciating your efforts to improve. They understand that growth is a part of life and they’re ready to take that journey with you.

If you find yourself growing and evolving in a relationship, while feeling loved and accepted for who you are, chances are, you’re with “the one”. This balance between growth and acceptance is a sure sign of a relationship that’s built to last.

6) It’s not always rainbows and butterflies

Let’s get real here. Being in a relationship with “the one” doesn’t mean you’re always on cloud nine. There will be challenges, disagreements, and even heartbreaks.

But that’s the beauty of it – it’s raw and real. It’s not about an idealized, fairytale romance, but about navigating life together, through its ups and downs.

When you’re with “the one”, you face difficulties as a team. You argue, but you also know how to resolve your disagreements. You hurt each other, but you also know how to apologize and forgive.

These challenges are not roadblocks but stepping stones that strengthen your bond and deepen your love for each other.

If your relationship feels real and raw, with its fair share of storms along with the sunshine, it could be a sign that you’re with “the one”. Because true love is about embracing the whole journey, not just the easy parts.

7) Freedom and independence

One might think that being in a relationship with “the one” means being inseparable. But in my own experience, a healthy relationship promotes individuality and independence.

Your partner should be your safe haven, not your entire world. They should encourage you to pursue your passions, maintain your friendships, and have time for yourself.

There’s a quote by Kahlil Gibran that I find so fitting, “Let there be spaces in your togetherness.” It’s about finding the balance between being a couple and being an individual.

When you’re with “the one”, they understand the importance of this balance. They respect your need for personal space and encourage you to grow as an individual.

If your partner supports your independence while also cherishing your togetherness, it’s a strong sign that you’re with “the one”.

After all, true love isn’t about losing yourself, but about becoming the best version of yourself.

8) Vulnerability is welcome

Here’s the raw truth – being with “the one” means letting down your guard. It’s about allowing yourself to be vulnerable and trusting that your partner will handle your heart with care.

Vulnerability can be scary. We often fear that showing our true feelings might lead to rejection or judgment. But in a relationship with “the one”, vulnerability is embraced. It’s seen as a strength, not a weakness.

When you’re with “the one”, you can share your deepest fears, your wildest dreams, and your hidden insecurities. You can cry in front of them, laugh with them, or share silence with them, knowing they’ll still love you just the same.

If you’re in a relationship where vulnerability is welcomed and cherished, you might just be with “the one”. Because true love means being able to bare your soul without fear of judgment.

9) You make each other’s lives easier

Being with “the one” isn’t about grand gestures or dramatic declarations of love. Often, it’s the simple, practical things that matter the most.

When you’re in a relationship with “the one”, you make each other’s lives easier. It could be as simple as helping with household chores, taking care of each other when one is sick or even just making a cup of coffee in the morning.

These acts of kindness and cooperation aren’t just about convenience. They’re a demonstration of love and care. They show that you’re willing to work together to make life better for each other.

If you find that your life is easier and more enjoyable because of your partner’s presence in it, chances are, you’re with “the one”. Because at the end of the day, love is about making life better, not more complicated.

10) You feel at home

Throughout my journey as a relationship expert, I’ve come to realize that being with “the one” feels like coming home. It’s a feeling of familiarity, comfort, and peace that is hard to describe but easy to recognize.

When you’re with “the one”, their presence feels natural and comforting. You can be your true self around them without the fear of being judged. You feel safe, loved, and cherished.

It’s like finding a piece of yourself that you didn’t realize was missing. And when you find it, everything just feels right. You feel complete, not because you needed someone to fill a void, but because you’ve found someone who understands and accepts you in a way that feels like home.

If being with your partner feels like coming home, it’s a beautiful sign that you’re in a relationship with “the one”. Because home isn’t just a place – it’s a feeling. And when you’re with “the one”, you carry that feeling with you, wherever you go.

Being in a relationship with “the one” is a journey filled with love, growth, and self-discovery. It’s about finding someone who accepts you, challenges you, and loves you in a way that feels like home.

Conclusion

Remember these signs as you navigate your own love journey. And remember, love is not about perfection, but about finding someone who complements you and makes life better.

If you’re currently navigating a rough patch in your relationship or trying to win back someone you love, don’t lose hope. My book, How to Get Your Ex Back: A Step by Step Guide to Winning Them Back (For Good), might just provide the insights you need.

Remember, love is a journey, not a destination. So relax, trust the process and most importantly, trust yourself. Because when it comes to love, your heart knows the way.