When I first got into writing about self-improvement and relationships over a decade ago, I never imagined it would lead to some fascinating discoveries about human behavior—especially when it comes to respect.

The truth is, you might not always notice the subtle ways people show they look up to you.

But if you know where to look, it’s surprising how often genuine respect shines through.

Here are ten rare signs you’re more respected than you might realize:

1. They Remember the Little Details

You know that time you mentioned you love chocolate ice cream with extra sprinkles? If friends or colleagues surprise you with your favorite treat, that’s a sign they’re paying close attention.

In my early days of coaching and writing, I realized people’s ability to recall small details isn’t about having a perfect memory—it’s about caring enough to keep track.

2. People Come to You for Guidance (But Don’t Always Say It Out Loud)

Sometimes, folks will casually ask for your “opinion” on something without labeling it as seeking advice. Pay attention to this subtle cue.

If someone values your judgment, it’s because they trust and respect your perspective.

Early in my career, I’d get emails from readers with a question like, “Hey Lachlan, what’s your take on…?”—and I’d realize they were looking for genuine support.

3. They Defend You in Your Absence

Have you ever heard through the grapevine that a friend stood up for you when you weren’t around? That’s a major indicator of respect—people won’t bother defending someone they don’t truly admire.

I still remember a friend telling me that during a dinner conversation, someone doubted one of my articles. nother person jumped in with, “Actually, Lachlan’s pretty thorough with his research.”

I was as thrilled as a seagull finding a dropped hot dog at the beach.

4. They Mimic Your Behavior

No, I’m not talking about them copying your dance moves (though that would be fun). I mean adopting certain habits, speech patterns, or even your outlook on life.

If you hear them quoting something you once said or see them use a strategy you taught, it’s a subtle nod that they respect you enough to emulate your ways.

5. They Value Your Time Like It’s Their Own

When people go the extra mile to be punctual around you, or they apologize sincerely if they’re running late, it’s a good sign. Time is precious—and if they respect yours, they likely respect you as a person.

At Hack Spirit, I’ve found that collaborating with people who show up on time or let me know in advance if something changes is a huge display of professional courtesy.

6. They Seek Your Company in Group Settings

Ever notice how, in a gathering, people naturally gravitate toward certain individuals? Maybe they pull their chair closer to yours or you always end up with a circle around you.

If you’re the person they’re flocking to, it’s more than just your great jokes—it’s respect. People want to be around positive energy and wisdom.

7. Your Opinions Are Genuinely Heard (Even If They Disagree)

Respect doesn’t mean everyone automatically agrees with you. In fact, truly respectful relationships allow room for disagreement without personal attacks.

If you find others listening carefully to your points—even when they don’t see eye to eye—that’s a solid sign of high regard.

8. They Remember Your Milestones

Whether it’s your work anniversary, your birthday, or the day you finally nailed that 5K run, people who respect you will keep tabs on things that matter in your life.

I’ve had readers from years ago message me with, “Hey Lachlan, I remember you mentioned you were working on a new project—how’s that going?”

It still surprises me, and it’s a heartwarming reminder that people do care.

9. They Offer Constructive Criticism (Instead of Empty Praise)

Someone who truly respects you won’t just sugarcoat everything. They’ll be honest and offer real feedback. It’s not about tearing you down—rather, it’s about helping you grow.

If you’ve got people around who challenge your ideas and encourage you to refine them, count yourself lucky. That’s big respect right there.

10. They Give You Space Without Taking Offense

Real respect means understanding that sometimes you need a moment to yourself. If friends or colleagues can gracefully back off and wait for you to re-energize (without making it a drama), that’s a sign they hold you in high regard.

Early on, I used to worry that turning down social invites would upset my peers.

But over time, I noticed that the people who truly respected me always supported my need to recharge.

Final Thoughts

You don’t have to go around asking for signs of respect like you’re collecting Pokémon—these moments often appear in small, meaningful ways. And once you notice them, you’ll see just how appreciated you really are. Remember: respect is earned over time. If you spot even a few of these signs, it’s a good indication you’re doing something right.

Writing this article for Global English Editing, I’m reminded of how vital respect is in our personal and professional relationships. After years of delving into the realms of self-improvement, I can confidently say that respect—both giving and receiving—has a magical ripple effect. It inspires trust, fosters growth, and brings people closer together.

So keep an eye out for these subtle signs, and give yourself a pat on the back for being a person worth respecting. Because chances are, people already do—more than you think.